Imagine That? New study says women and men are very much alike when it comes to the reasons we choose to have sex. Researchers finally asked why…instead of how and opened a whole new direction of inquiry into couples and relating. Big new scientifically validated discovery…?? We are drawn together by Physical Attraction. (Also validates the science stating we are attracted by as a result of biology and hormones.) Love is a bit further down the list. (College students were the test group but that is the age most mate and marry.) The Study.
Biology studies supply the hurdles to long relationships citing physiological changes as we progress through the stages of attraction, infatuation, etc. {“Psychologist Dorothy Tennov measured the duration of romantic love, from the moment infatuation hit to when a “feeling of neutrality” for one’s love object began. She concluded, “The most frequent interval, as well as the average, is between approximately 18 months and three years” John Money agrees, proposing that once you begin to see your sweetheart regularly the passion lasts two to three years.}
Where does the Soul enter the picture? Those we are drawn to – for more than a moment – are part of our dance. They fit the requirements to get us to dive into the pool without even once considering whether it is the deep end or the shallow end… and there we are. Love gets lumped into the encounter as a motivator but the real thing happens after the dizziness wears off and …if necessary… we have been resuscitated.
Easy or a Challenge is really a stacked deck. Your soul is in on the game.
What does your soul know? That answer comes from you. And it is more encouragement to get a better handle on who you are, why you are here and what you hope to learn. (But it is not a prerequisite, it is an option.) Those who show up to greet you (good, bad or indifferent) are here to help with that. The Magic of Soul Mates? …. it can still end badly here (romantic view)…. and live on in Spirit. We have done this before and will do it again. Here is where we learn to love, skinning our knees and blaming everyone for failing to spell out the fine print. Endings Suck! And that is the Illusion. In attaching and letting go, we learn. We love. We Fly. Romantic love? Why not?
Mind, Body, and Soul. The Dance of Life. Engage.
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Interesting thoughts. Your soul is indeed in the game. The key is, when you love from your soul and put your ego aside, that is when you will know if the person of your intention is truly a soul mate.
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Thank you. It helped when I began to understand the difference between a life mate and a soul mate.
Soul mates are not always “perfect” unions. Some force us to undergo rigorous upgrades and intense personal transformation … and that is why we reconnect … we like the “big picture” work we do together and the result. However, it may not be quite so “fun” during the time of incarnation. : )
Engaging Soul allows us to immerse self/ego in the fire of creation … without getting burned.
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I know what I share might be questioned. That’s OK, I understand. I don’t ask anyone believe me. I say to believe in your own heart and to that be true.
I have found that the search for ‘soul mates’ in some other person is a ruse. What we seek is the companionship of our own soul. A truly intimate connection with it. A partnership, a fusion, a marriage. But when we’re stuck on looking outside of ourselves for completeness and who9leness, our journeys within not yet started, we often confuse this deep longing and yearning, to be looking for some one.
Our soul is the mate of our personalities.
And all our other relationships in life, reflect this relationship within ourselves.
Many of us are addicted to drama and there’s nothing quite like a good romance for illiciting that. But in every good romonce there is a crisis of heart wrenching proportion. As for me, my Play of Consiousness is a Comedy, not a romance or a drama. I’m greedy and lazy.
I’d rather get to all the loving without the crisis, thank you.
Blessings!
And have a HAPPY day!
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Thank you! Your comments are more than welcome as is your view. It is also truth. Each perspective offers a new angle – new twist – we take what resonates and weave that into our own tapestry of becoming.
It is my experience — know it or not — we are what we seek…All external is illusion…mirroring what we are creating…and we work through the maya to elevate soul and embrace ourselves in what ever guise we turn up…Thus the mask – and the word work may be more akin to refinement. In this simplicity…there is more depth than any words can explain.
It is multidimensional.
Thank you for sharing….Romance is a creation. I have somehow managed to incorporate angels into my production…Not wanting to kick out an angel, I am playing at Divine Comedy… : ) When we are complete, we see our self reflected in every facet of creation. That’s a lot to love. And we are never alone.
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Grinning…
I introduce myself as a “Complete” Idiot.
Made perfect by and through my own imperfections.
It’s what many of us haven’t understood, including me at one time. It isn’t ‘perfect’ that counts. It’s how we embrace ‘imperfect’.
Heavens! I haven’t found angels easy to scare off. Especially the one with that damn horn.
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